The Psalmist tells us that the happy/blessed person mulls over Yahweh’s torah by day and night. What river of thought runs through your head by day and night? We all have one. Sometimes it might seem anxious, mulling over all the things that might happen in a given situation. Sometimes the river of thought might seem ravenous, like a tiger plotting the best path to attack and devour its prey. Maybe it’s exhausted, just looking for an opportunity to rest. What thoughts do you mull over by day and night that influence how you interact with the significant people in your life?
For parents, is this river of thought connected to a bigger picture, orienting goal? Or is it just stuck on a particular pathway that might not have a clear destination? In “How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success“, Julie Lythcott-Haims suggests that “what it actually takes to succeed in the real world [is] hard work, relationship-based connections, perseverance, resilience, and some amount of good luck” (Location 4240, Kindle edition). As a parent, will my river of thought lead me there?
Maybe it’s worth paying attention to where our current river of thought might lead and considering whether or not we’re ok with that destination. Mulling over Yahweh’s torah by day and night would suggest that our river of thought recognize that each life is a holy journey that must be uncovered and discovered by the one leading it. I can’t live this journey for my child or my spouse or my parent or my sibling, but I can walk with them and encourage them to be attentive to their own unique journey so they can find their purpose and develop the perseverance and resilience necessary to live into that purpose.